You probably weren’t expecting to be here, or to be reading this. You were hoping for an easy delivery, perfectly healthy baby, and to be home enjoying your new life, but that’s not what happened. Most likely you’re feeling overwhelmed with all the doctor talk, crazy emotional looking at your small, beautiful baby, and not being able to process all the thoughts going on in your head. Well, having been there myself, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone.
I want you to know that everything you are feeling is okay. I want you to know that all the ups and downs are okay. I want you to know that you’re doing the best you can, and that is enough. Every day is a roller coaster in the NICU, and roller coasters come with many emotions. Let yourself feel all of them. Don’t try to bottle yourself up, let yourself feel everything.
I want you to know that its okay to ask questions, and lots of them. If you don’t understand something that is happening, ask a question. When you feel concerned about something, ask a question. When you are nervous about something, ask a question. That is your baby and you have the right to know every detail about what is going on.
I want you to know that you will get through this. That this season in life will not last forever. You are strong enough, brave enough, and loved enough to get through this. Everything about being in the NICU is hard. I don’t think that there is ever a day that isn’t hard, but you can do it. You can get through to the other side.
I want you to know that your child is loved. Your sweet baby was created in the perfect image of God. Your baby is cared for. Not only by the doctors and nurses, but by his Creator. Your child is in the perfect hands of God. Being cared for perfectly. I want you to know that YOU are loved. The Lord hears your cries and knows your heart and is holding you so tightly. He knows your sorrows and your struggles. He hears you. He loves you. He is there for you, always.
Write everything down. Keep a journal with you in the room and write in it every day. When you get out of this season, you’ll be able to look at that journal and see how far you, and your baby, have come. You’ll want to remember the nurses and doctors that you loved, the good days, the exciting milestones, all of it. I love looking back at the journal kept during that time. It brings me joy to be able to finally look at is as a part of the past, and thankful for how far we’ve come.
And take pictures! It’s so special to see my boy when he was so small. I still get emotional every time I see a picture of him so small and helpless, but I love looking at them.
I’m sorry your sweet baby is in the NICU. It’s so hard to be there, I know. But you are not alone. If you want to know what you should bring to the nicu, check out my list of what to have at the nicu here.
I’d love to keep your baby on my prayer list. Leave a comment below or email me privately at email@example.com
Are you a NICU mama? Leave your encouragement down below
“The grass withers and the flowers fade, but the word of the Lord stands forever.” Isaiah 40:8